Monday, 21 July 2014

Mummy Monday: 10 Things I Didn't Appreciate About Having a Baby

A mummy Monday topic!

Here are my top 10 things I didn't fully appreciated about having a baby...

Oh. My. Goodness. 

Time is a funny thing and your brain is a crafty character that stops you fully remembering the pain pretty soon after you give birth. I totally didn't believe the midwives when they laughed at me and went 'you'll forget it soon enough' as I was adamantly stating 'I WILL NEVER EVER DO THAT AGAIN'. But they were right...I am forgetting. I know it was complete and utter agony that I've never felt before and that I thought it would never end but I probably couldn't completely accurately describe the pain any more and I'm back up to wanting 3 children again. Maybe with some proper pain relief this time though!!!...

Read my breastfeeding story here. I really wanted to give breastfeeding a good go and had  supplied myself with adequate information and education on it but nothing prepared me for how painful and hard it was to try and pursue. It physically made me cry at times and stopped me bonding with Isla properly whilst I was attempting it. I will try again with any other babies I have, if I'm lucky enough to have more, as all babies are different but unfortunately it wasn't meant to be with Isla.

I genuinely don't know what my husband and I would have done if we hadn't had my parents staying with us for the first week. They provided us with so much support and help that was essential when we were feeling totally out of our depth! Nothing can prepare you for bringing your gorgeous bundle of joy home. You are already completely exhausted from the whole giving birth thing, you feel like you've been run over by a truck and run a marathon at the same time and all of a sudden you're expected to look after a little human whois 100% dependent on just you. #overwhelming!

Don't get me wrong I got off very lightly with body changes throughout pregnancy. I only gained weight on my bump and didn't get any stretch marks but my god your body looks different after having a baby!!! Straight afterwards your tummy will have zero muscles behind it and will just feel like a pool of jelly! I'm afraid, regardless of whether you breastfeed or not, your boobs will change and probably won't quite sit in the same place they used to. I'm back at the gym now and am excited to try and get back to the way I was before...or even more toned. Here's hoping!

Isla has had a touch of what we think is colic - read the story here - and this kind of crying, when you're already pretty tired, is very very hard to cope with. It always helps when there are two of you and you can take turns to try and help your baby out but if they just won't stop crying, usually the best thing to do is make sure they're safe and walk away for a bit. I've lost count how many times I've had to do this now. You almost forget that babies aren't crying to annoy you but it does't make you a bad parent if you get wound up by it. I'm sure everyone in the history of parenting has felt like this at one point!

Head butts. Nips. Scratches. Kicks. These are Isla's favourite forms of violence at the moment and at least, for now, they are accidental (I hope!). I dread to think what the future holds once her strength gets built up and teeth come into the picture!

After weeks and weeks of devoting yourself to your baby and giving them 100% of your love, time and effort when you FINALLY get something back i.e. a smile, you will become an emotional wreck. I am not remotely an emotional person (well I wasn't before pregnancy) but I cried and cried when Isla smiled at me the first time. She then didn't do it for another 2 weeks but never mind about that!

Even when certain adverts and things come on TV now I do feel a lump in my throat and anything to do with kids or babies gets me straight away.

I believe most babies are born with some form of sensor that detects hot food and cold food. Cold food, no problem! Eat that salad, enjoy that piece of bread and butter but if it's hot food you're after, good luck! My husband and I often take it in turns to eat and it can end up in a mini argument about who gets to go first.

The same rule applies to tea, coffee or any form of hot drink too! I've now got a cup holder on my pram so that I can trick Isla and have a coffee on the go!

Baby yoga. Baby sensory. Baby signing. Baby massage. Baby groups (x4 in our case!). Swimming. The list goes on and on and only gets bigger as they grow too! It is a good way to try and meet new friends for you too though. Often when a chance for you to go out or do something without baba comes up, you're too tired to do it anyway therefore your social life can dwindle as your baby's grows (in my husband's case anyway, not so much mine haha).

Number 10 speaks for itself. 

Having a child is the most wonderful blessing you can ever have and I'm going to try my best to enjoy every minute I get to have with my little mini me.


  1. Ha ha, with you on the violence!! My wee boy is 8m and loves nothing more than pulling my hair while he's feeding, and nipping the back of my arm when I'm carrying him! Monkeys!!

    1. Oh I can't believe I forgot about the pulling hair!! Haha they have such strong nips don't they!
      Thanks for reading :)

  2. This was beautiful! So many times we don't speak of the hard parts about having a baby.
    Breast feeding IS HARD! I tried and couldn't with my first, but succeeded for my 2nd.
    Sleep? What is that? Lol
    I love number 10 the most! It makes 1-9 so worthwhile :)

    1. I try to be as honest as possible about my mummy journey! I think it's easy to gloss over the hard parts and just talk about the good parts but it's important for all of us to hear both sides so we don't feel like we're alone :) Thanks for reading!

  3. What a lovely post! All so true xx #mummymonday

  4. I love this post! It's true, I cry at everything Mason does now! What adverts get you crying? It's the SMA one that ends with 'you're doing great' that gets me every time!

    I've just written a post on our bodes changing after pregnancy, I was like you and only really gained weight on the bump. I'd be interested to see if you agree with how I felt.


    1. Haha the SMA advert definitely. And some of the Johnsons ones! Anything to do with families really!

      Ooh I'll go have a look now :)

      Thanks for commenting! x


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